Wedding Anniversary Recap
Life doesn’t stop when you decide to get married. Shortly after saying, “I Do” last October, Ty and I both changed jobs and, within one month of each other. We did this while going through the process of buying our first home, no stress there! Throw on top of that, our first trip overseas to Ireland, we got a puppy, and I started this blog!
Year one has been a wild and exciting ride! Here are our main takeaways.
Communication is King
In the media world they say Content is King… in the world of marriage, the big C stands for communication.
Some days communicating in a healthy and effective way is easy, some days it’s harder, depending on what life has thrown your way. It’s important to cue in on your partner’s energy. Sometimes the last thing you need after a hard day at work is a bad joke, hurt feelings, or nagging from the person who is supposed to be your rock.
Marriage is a balancing act, but sometimes it feels like a circus. Control the chaos by stepping up when the other can’t be as strong and don’t be afraid to ask them to step up as well! Communicate that you need a little support, whether it be in the form of time, help around the house, or just a big bear hug.
The Dream Team
When you have two people with big personalities and strong opinions, from time to time you are bound to experience some less than effective forms of communication.
Sometimes the subject is really stupid and you have to learn to laugh about it (we’re good at this). Other times, it’s more serious and you need time to cool down. But at the end of the day, always realize you are on the SAME TEAM.
You and your partner are each other’s best allies and have joined together for a reason. If you are going to take on the world, you can’t break each other down. Teamwork makes the dream work!
Surround yourself with like-minded people who have the same values as you and your partner. The first year of marriage is the time to focus on the fundamentals and build the foundation for your married life together. Some friendships may fall by the wayside as you devote more time to your partner, and less time on those individual relationships. That’s to be expected, but the friendships where you can pick up right where you left off are the ones you should value the most.